My Sweethearts and the Lover of My Soul…

By Valorie Gonzalez  

Valentine’s Day has been named a national day of love and friendship.  On this day florists, jewelers, bakeries, restaurants are all very busy as husbands, wives, and lovers all prepare to share this romantic and intimate day typically with their significant other.  Throughout the years and just the other day I heard an individual say, “I’m in need of a sweetheart to share Valentine’s Day.”  That comment made me think.

As I sat down and reflected back to the twenty one years I’ve single parented, I can’t say I ever felt I needed a sweetheart or find  someone to spend this day with.  That is because, what greater love than the Lover of my Soul, Jesus…and what other sweethearts do I need than my children.  Since, they were just infants, they have always been the three I have set this day aside for…we have a candlelight dinner of their taste, whether it is at home some years or at a restaurant of their choice, we talk about years past…I tell them stories of when they were babies and we try to agree to a not so girly, but; family oriented movie we can all four enjoy.  On this day…the chocolates, balloons, cards, flowers, and candles go to my babies….it fills my heart with such joy.  I knew love, real true, unconditional love when I surrendered my heart and lifestyle to Christ Jesus (not church) …and I learned what it was to “be in love,” when I gave birth to each one of my children and held them in my arms.  So, I hold this day as just one symbolic day of displaying my love to them. I spend quality time in prayer thanking my heavenly father for his undying and unconditional love to me and I spend time with my three precious sweethearts reflecting on the joy they’ve brought to my life.

If you don’t have a spouse, lover, or even friend…remember, you always have the “Lover of your soul and a Sweetheart” for all of a lifetime to share this symbolic day with.

Psalm 23: “The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want…” (KJV), explains all Christ is to me.  When I feel I’m missing a husband, a partner in life, I reflect to this scripture and want for nothing.

Psalm 68: 4-6 “Sing to God, sing praise to his name. Extol him who rides on the clouds, his name is the Lord and rejoice before him. A father to the fatherless and defender of the widows, is God in his holy dwelling.  God sets the lonely in families, he leads forth the prisoner with singing; but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land. (NIV)”

And remember to Just Breathe!

Reflection Corner:

1.) Have you spent enough time with Jesus? Just as any other relationship where you date and communicate with your better half to get to know them better, Christ wants to spend time with you.

2.) Stop and think, prior being blessed with a husband or a wife, Christ needs to see you nurture your current relationships…are you and have you dedicated yourself and committed to your children and co-parented with HIM?

3.) Do you trust him with all of you?

2 thoughts on “My Sweethearts and the Lover of My Soul…

  1. Yes, the Lover of our Soul, loves us so unconditionally. “And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Rom 8:38-39

  2. I speak to the Lord all day long, yet without quiet time separated just to be with him I realize that I get off track, and so it is so necessary to cultivate and have that time. I journal pray alot – it helps me focus and reflect better.

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